I lived abroad with my husband and in- laws. I was just married 2 years ago. All our family business was under my father in law’s control. Allah blessed me with a baby girl 2 months ago by operation, as I came back from hospital my in-laws put all the pressure of house hold work on me, which was really depressing. After few days when I went to my father’s house in Pakistan my in-laws spread rumours all over that I have left my home with anger, due to these type of rumours my family asked me to leave my husband. But my husband loves me a lot I also want to live with him as I can never even think of doing so. Please let me know how it is possible.
Advice:
Miss let know you that husband’s house is an eternal shelter for a woman after her marriage. Every house or every family has certain disputes and problems but this really doesn’t mean to break up your relations. A girl has to sacrifice a lot to make soft corner in every body’s heart. It is woman‘s own ingenuity that how she can balance her life peacefully. Your family has made it a matter of their ego which is very bad. Without considering all this, please try to inform your husband that you want to come back and you can’t live without him. This will inshallah work, and try to ignore their bad behaviours. Consider your father and mother in-law as your own parents. I request you not to spoil your marital lives as I have seen many cases where women are now in miserable conditions after having divorce.
Always be thankful to ALLAH ALMIGHTY
(Shahista mehmood, Lahore)
I am going for umrah please let me know about the barakaat and particular properties of ZAMZAM.
ADVICE:
Zamzam is a complete source of shifa. Drink it a lot during your stay. Recently a Japanese scientist has proved that zamzam have those special properties and qualities which no other water has. You’ll be surprised to know that when it is mixed in any other plain water that water will also have the same qualities.
You’ll be having a book of supplications so kindly don’t forget to say dua before having zamzam as it will then become a cure for even incurable diseases. Many of the diabetic patients drank ZamZam and then did circumambulation and dint face the problem of urination. So always be thankful to ALLAH for his countless blessings.
Last memorable thing of my grand mother
I have an old ‘Sat-lari’ necklace which is now faded. The pearls have lost their color. Maybe the original pearls also fade out. Can this be reversed? It is the last memoir of my maternal grandmother. [S.J; Karachi]
Advice:
Spread some grinded rice on a tray. Apply rice flour on this necklace with the help of cotton very gently apply this rice flour on the necklace, and then clean it softly.Wipe it with a cloth and then keep it safely in some cotton. Do this for 2 days; take pearls in hands and clean. Little efforts shall beautify the necklace. Don’t forget to put the left over flour to the birds or insects.
Henna has spoiled my hair
(Asia, Multan)
Henna spoils my hair and makes them dry. Kindly tell me the proper way of dyeing hair, and how can the chemicals be harmful for us.
Advice:
Chemicals don’t suits every one, one of my sister had a hair dye which had a reaction on her, her face was swelled and had itching init. She visited the doctor for that. It was all due to sensitivity towards chemicals, so first try a bit of hair dye behind your ear. Pregnant woman should avoid hair dyeing. Ladies suffering from asthma should always concern their general physician before using any new product. Nowadays, all types of henna has chemicals in it to increase their colour. For this you can buy simple henna from market; add an egg in one cup of henna, put 3 grinded cloves in it, also add a piece of an inch of dandasa and in the end put some mustard oil in it, mix the whole mixture carefully and keep it to stay for some time. Some ladies also boil a spoon of onion seeds(kalonji) and a spoon of tea in water then add all the things in it, remember always add egg in the end when the mixture cools. After applying this henna cover your head with some plastic than wash your hair after an hour. After your hair wash add 4 drops of lemon juice in 3-4 drop mustard oil then apply it in your roots gently which will make your hair very shiny. Adding mustard oil in henna does not makes your hair dry. Some men also dye their beard, it is Sunnat-e-Rasool PBUH; please do apply.
