Given below are wrangled letters from troubled and hopeless families & their resolvedanswers.Do send a reply-envelope; complete address should be written. Do not expect a quick reply.
Therefore, marriage is not the solution of such problem but ratherteach him some art which will enable him to bear his financial burden in life.
EVERY ONE IS AGAINST ME Everybody is against me; be it family or outsiders. I do not feel like meeting anyone but it is difficult living in solitude. I have to tell them that they are wrong and they should correct themselves. Especially, my family should agree with me. Their coldness and careless attitude is very disturbing for me and I want to know the psychological condition of this attitude with me. [Naeem; Multan] ADVICE: Forced reply would be cold and careless. You should be thankful to your family that they are not disrespecting you despite yourthis attitude. How is it possible that they should be agreeing with you on every issue? Are you always true in your approach? You try to understand that there is a psychological problem with you. It is wrong to consider that you are always right. If you create a balance between your thinking and personality,so it would be easy to correct others and everybody will not against you.
IMPRESSIVE PERSONALITY I have an unimpressive personality, I have recently completed Master in Economics and my all friends are looking for job. But I think nobody will be ready to offer me job due to non-impressive personality. Please advise me how can I be an impressive person? [Naveed; Jhleum] ADVICE: If somebody is looking impressive it does not guarantee that he would be acceptable everywhere for job. Care for personality is not bad but upto a limit. The things which matter a lot are education and professional eligibility which you have acquired. While thinking positively about your personality, you must rely upon your capabilities. Soon you will feel that others are confident about your personality.
I DON’T LIKE IT I don’t like assistances from my wife’s relatives. Actually we have come to Karachi from an affected area and are not at peace here.Whatever house belongings areavailable; I am worried about them and often close the door again and again. Neither I allow any family member to go outsidenor do I go outmyself due to unknown fear. If I happen to go outside, I fear that somebody will enter my house. When I remain inside,I feel something wrong would be happening outside. My family has restricted me from reading the newspaper; I assume that they now consider me a mad man. [M. Ahmad; Karachi] ADVICE: Any behavior which is disturbing you or other people, is unusual, and disrupting life routine is a mental problem. The only difference between normal and psycho patient is abnormal behavior ofsuch patients.Such people waste most of their time in unimportant issues and ignore the main responsibilities. You are aware of your case and can take corrective measures. Collect all your will-power &do not bound your family indoors; seeksome job or work and prepare to go outdoors to perform regular responsibilities toward your family. The people coming from affected areas become peaceful when settled in peaceful places. If such people adopt abnormal behavior even after settlement at peaceful place, there will be no denying to this fact that they are mentally sick and need proper treatment.
YOU DO DRAMAS Everyone at home says that you do dramas. Nobody realizes my deteriorating health. I feel crying on their indifference attitude. My throat is little bulged out from the front. No medicine affects me. I cannot sleep; experience frequent headache and I feel increased heart rate. I keep anxious throughout the day; am experiencing arthritis too. [A; Gujrat] Advice: Your symptoms are pointing towards the disease of thyroid. In this disease, sleep, appetite and temperament gets affected and symptoms like headache, stomach-ache, and arthritis show. Increase in heart-rate, crying, anxiety and freaking out is also due to this. You can control all these complaints to an extent but to completely get rid of it you will have to consult an expert physician for the treatment of Thyroid.
