Respected Hazrat Hakeem Sir Assalam-o-Alaikum! I read Ubqari every month, which is published that write your experiences and observations for the benefit of creature of Allah, which will become sadqa jariya for you also. That’s why I am giving one true incident to Ubqari. My one relative (to whom I will give imaginary name of Majid Uncle) got married 22 years before today. Especially this marriage was done on the basis of bride exchange. In start, the conditions of both families were very good. Everyone was living happily. Then mostly this used to happen that there would be fight in one house so its news used to reach to the other house, so the fight used to start there as well. Majid uncle only on this base, used to do bad treatment with his wife that according to him, with his sister good attitude is not being kept in that house. Everyday fights and hitting became a routine. At last one day the wife of Majid uncle went to the home of her parents after leaving her house. Majid uncle gave her divorce one day after coming in anger. At that time, Majid uncle had 2 sons and 1 daughter.
Majid Uncle kept his children with him. After sometime the farmer wife of Majid uncle, got married after completing her iddat. Majid uncle felt very depressed with this thing. As it was the marriage of bride exchange so the sister of Majid uncle was also given divorce in ego and jealousy of Majid Uncle. After some time, to take the revenge, Majid uncle contacted his former wife and misguided her that come back for children’s sake. The life of our children is getting destructed. She took divorce from her second husband and got nikkah-fied with Majid uncle again. Majid uncle did more than limits cruelty with his wife just to take revenge that her mind got sick and don’t know where she went after leaving her small children. He divorced her again in her absence and got married again. This how, a step-mother came to look after his children. She used to do much cruelty with children. There is one daughter (S) of Majid uncle also. Now listen the story of (S). (S) Used to bear the abuse and hitting of step-mother day and night. Step-mother used to make her do all the work of house. When (S) got little big, her father married her with his friend’s son, far away from city. (S) thanks to god that she got rid of step-mother and she got her life partner and a loving husband. The life was spending very well. (S) Used to do all work of house. There were animals at home. She used to give grass to animals along with her husband, used to cut wheat in intense heat, all the people used to feel sad after seeing the condition of girl that how much work she does. But (S) was very happy and peaceful in this condition. Suddenly one day, destruction fell upon this girl that at morning while breakfast among the husband of (S) and his father fight started. After ten minutes of fight, on small matter, the husband of (S) shoot himself and attempted suicide and this how this girl got insane and reached to her father. Now everyone says to Majid uncle that you are getting punishment of your done thing and this how the relation of bride exchange which should be stranger got destructed, first two homes due to stubbornness, ego and rigidness. Now one more generation got damaged and don’t know this rigidness will destruct how many more homes? May Allah grant us all the opportunities to do respect and honor of relations.
