He was quite elderly but he didn’t marry anyone since he was in search for an ideal wife. People asked him: Didn’t you find any woman who was ideal enough to be married with you? He replied: I told such a woman once who was ideal enough to be married with but she herself was in search for an ideal husband and I was not able to meet up with her standards. People are usually more prone in finding out the mistakes in other people and so they are not able to comply with them. If a person tried to focus on his own mistakes then he will realize that he himself is standing on the point where he sees others to be. If a person is able to feel his own weaknesses then this will create a sense of unity and balance within himself. On the contrary, if he is only aware about the flaws of other people, then he will always be filled with arrogance and it will be difficult for him to get along other people. Psychology tells that one person is not filled up with all sorts of perfection. Someone has some qualities while others have some other kind of beauty or attributes. Likewise one attribute in the person leads to the development of certain kind of other attributes in himself. For example, if one person is brave, then he will also be intense from the inside. If one person is innocent then likewise he will be soft hearted too. If someone is sensitive, he’ll have angriness in him as well. If a person is intelligent, due to that attribute the person will be prone to criticism as well. If a person is responsible, then that person will also have worriedness in his personality etc. Likewise if we want to take advantage of someone’s brighter side, then we have to ignore their darker side as well. This is the only way through which we’ll be able to make everyone’s attributes useful. No matter what relationship we are talking about, whether it is husband and wife, servant and the owner, seller and the buyer, we have to keep this principle in front of ourselves. If we want roses, we must learn to be its thrones as well. The one who is not able to bear the thrones, he is not destined for getting rose either.
