Aslamoalikum respected Hakeem Sahab. Today I am going to tell you about the topic of pain and Karbala that has unfortunately became a part of every house, society and country. The problem that I am referring to is having a daughter. Yes! A daughter. It is so painful to be a daughter in today’s world. I am a daughter, a woman, a girl and yet you wouldn’t be able to understand this because Allah S.W.T has already given you respect naturally which is also mentioned in Quran (Not alike are daughters like sons). But the world often forgets that the same God has also given some rights to these women to whom every house and community treats badly. Today I want to tell everyone about what actually happens when someone rejects their daughter for marriage and I want to tell them about the pain that the respective families have to go through. People have no idea how a daughter’s family takes loans from other people so that they can serve to the suitor’s family or how they feel when they dress up their daughter according to the demands of others. I have no words to explain this pain and I don’t think that I will be able to do it either. How can I stop this burning of hell? How can I stop this earth from shaking? Respected Hakeem Sahab, I request you to publish my letter in Ubqari magazine. This is something that belongs to me and I want to share it with the readers of Ubqari that if Allah S.W.T has sent you a blessing in form of a daughter and you have made her suffer endlessly and broken her to pieces and then you complain about your own problems, issues and magic. I want to ask those people about how do they treat the blessing that is already a part of their house or the blessing that they brought into their houses but never cared about them? Ask those people who have crossed all the boundaries of shamelessness. How do they look shamelessly at the daughter of Hawa when she comes to them with a tea tray. How their gazes tend to tear away all her dignity and respect. I want to question those people who take blessings as burdens, who don’t want to give any part of their property to their daughters and those people who look at the dowry with greedy eyes. Readers! Tell me. Isn’t this a disastrous thing for us? Why cannot we see how wrong it is to make someone’s daughter a piece of decoration that whoever is willing to buy, buys it and whoever dislikes rejects it easily. Just think about the girl whom someone rejects like this. How she would be smiling and working normally in front of everyone but whenever the nights befalls, she’ll dig her face into her pillow and cry and scream as silently as she would be able to. Just think what she will go through when someone will tell her that another suitor is coming to see you today. How she will get so scared and confused of how people will look at her shamelessly and with greed to only reject her by the end.
What kind of world is this? Were the humans of Adam this shameless than they are today? Did anyone looked at someone’s daughter like this for a pure relationship that is Nikkah? Readers! Question your heart and tell me. Why do we expect to stay away from all kinds of diseases and problems when the deeds we do make us more rightful of it. We deserve more disasters and incurable diseases because we have filled our environment with cries, sighs and painful prayers of people that we have wronged. Ask these people, why are they even alive? Readers, I have heard a lot of painful sighs and I have seen a lot of people treating daughters in the worst way possible. Honestly, these earthquakes, inflations, restlessness, depression and diseases are just a blow from Allah. Allah is angry with us as He sees everything. He sees how the blessings (daughters), He has given to us are treated worse than animals and their respect, dignity and identity has been completely shattered. It is only due to some people who have their honest prayers, good deeds and repentance that is saving us from Allah’s punishment to overtake us. For the sake of Allah stop rejecting someone’s blessing, their daughters and do not stoop so low. Whenever she is treated this way, she loses herself and her identity. All of this completely takes away her life. It is not only one person who is responsible for all this. Everyone who is involved in it, performs such deeds and the people who suggest/find suitors, each one of them is responsible for this. This is my open message to the readers of Ubqari that if we do not stop doing such deeds and having such standards, then all of us should get ready for bigger punishments from Allah Almighty because painful sighs have already been released and emotions have been shattered by now. Someone readers might not be able to understand what I am talking about but I am going to have a live example of myself who is writing to you about all this. I myself have seen all these painful situations and so Allah gave my thoughts a voice by which I am here writing this to all of you. I thought how I should inform people who are treating blessings unblessfully. For the sake of Allah! We need to repent and stop treating other’s daughters so mercilessly. Do not make fun of someone else in the name of fake relationships, friendships or internet. Do not make any false promises with them, do not invite shamelessness into our community or auction someone’s blessings.
