Mostly it is said that mothers love more their son as compare to daughters where as daughters love their father more then their mother where is it is difficult to set standards of love. Fathers are like stiff tree for their daughter under whose shade they grow up. Father’s encouraging behavior help in increasing abilities of daughters. Obeying social values, mutual courage, and father’s love are helpful in successful life of daughter. Father’s loving and caring behavior towards daughter is a special gift that not only increase her self-confidence and also help in successful life in future. Mostly father’s attitude towards son or daughter is caring but sometime it is seen that father has to wake daughter’s love in her heart.
Who should express love: one thing that daughters express freely is that “ I want that my father tell me how much he loves me?” one physiological expert says regarding this question “ as compared to son, daughter requires more father’s love since birth and as her age increases her requirement for love from father and her love for father increase. And this is the reason that girls express this feeling towards father.”
It is seen in families that those father who fell difficulty in expressing their love towards their daughter or son take help of artificial things, for example remembering some special day of their life, giving gifts on success in exams to encourage them or to praise food cooked by them and etc..
Some father express affection towards their wives to show their love towards their daughters. Physiology experts say that “husbands love towards her wife effects goes towards their children specially their daughters. In families where there parents relation is not so pleasant effect children especially some physical problem occur which remain with them whole life. As a result not only their personality shatters but also they lack confidence.
Importance of time: it is accepted that a father who gives luxury to his children instead of giving time, luxury is not replacement of time. There are few hours in day when daughter miss her father. At that moment girls want to see her father at home, young children feels good more when their father is at home instead of luxuries provided in replacement. Nothing is replacement of father’s presence at near to girls. One thing that always remains in boy’s mind is pleasant time spent with father at home. These pleasant moment stays there in their upcoming life, so father should take out some time for his children. Talk with them, play small games with children such as carom board, cricket, football, luddo, badminton and etc that can be played at home. Occasionally take them outside for food or ice-cream. Such things increases self confidence in girls and they think that their father also loves them. By this relation of self-confidence and love between father and daughter become strong.
Following rules and regulations and father’s behavior:
Children have stubborn behavior but mostly it is seen that parents try that their children follow rules and regulations and without having any trouble learn from their parent’s experiences. Mostly children oppose such behavior, in this aspect parents become stick on children, physiological experts says this behavior is wrong. Children do not accept any order given strictly except given by their teacher. Her parents should keep in mind that children specially girls expect what kind of behavior from their parents specially father. Childern are like person sitting in on chair in dark room. Their mind is like blank page on which parent’s behavior leaves strong mark. If you want your children to follow rules and regulations and you adopt strict behavior then need is that you should change your behavior. Instead of strict behavior if make them follow rules and regulations with love then it will be more healthy behavior.
Daughters consider their father as their ideal, so if father’s behavior is strict then it will have negative effect on their personality and as compared to mother they become more frightened of fathers. In our eastern culture where father head of family’s behavior is more orderly rather then friendly this pressurizes children especially daughters and whole life they consider male as strict and in future their married life might also faces problems. Therefore it is essential that in order to make children specially girls follow rules and regulations father should follow loving behavior. Like this girls not only accepts rules and regulations by my heart but they also follow them and as they grow up they praise their father’s rules and also praise its positive effects.
