I enrolled in a private university. Most of the girls here have expensive cars. If they have a mobile phone, they get drink, when I see them, I feel that I have to say so many times for my fee from family. There is a feeling of deprivation as to why I am deprived of these things. (Jawwad, Multan)
Suggestion: There is a difference between being deprived and feeling deprived. Maybe this is the person who never thinks about losing valuables in his heart. It is natural to suffer more or less .At the same time, to understand oneself in a positive way and to be thankful for the blessings one receives is to bring peace of mind. You mentioned the feeling of deprivation. It is not necessary to be deprived of material things. Your family members’ are paying your fees in spite of difficulties. Get away from material things and get an education. Everything is achieved with time.
Suggestion of stupid friends
For the last few years our life has become very restless. After five years of marriage, having a son, my first wife was silent on everything I said, but now she can't stand anything I say. When I get angry, I scolded the child, and hit him, but she thinks it's bad. My friend thinks she thinks she can't leave him. I don't want to give up on her as her status has become stronger after having a child, but I need peace of mind
Suggestion: Anger destroys peace of mind. The marital relationship is so beautiful and stable that it doesn't matter if you have children or not. Friends are not satisfied because friends are not professional counselors. Don't have skills. Point out your mistakes in front of you and work with peace. When peace is restored in your home, of course you do not remember the moments that happened. You did not say how old the child is, you didn’t tell how old the child was, how he was scolded, or why he was slapped. In short, you need to correct yourself. Try to control your anger.
Cannot understand child psychology
My daughter is 4 years old. If she is slapped for any mischief or if she is angry, she slaps her own face with her hand and keeps hitting me. It reaches me to the limit. I intend that I will not do this in the future, but people seem to be talking on its terms However, it is important that the child understands the advice and does not act in the future because of anger. I don't understand the mental state of my child.
Suggestion: There are some rules for training young children. If they are followed, they don't need to be slapped. Strictly stopping the mischief of older children sometimes requires a slap in the face but it is very undesirable thing that the child is allowed to hate himself. It instantly succumbs to feelings of vengeance and rebellion. A small child who cannot say anything to an adult in his speech but also has to do it through self-expression is the easiest thing to do. He thinks that I am bad and he has learned this from the negative attitude of the parents. The best principle of training is to reward the good and reject the slightest mistake. Work with patience and perseverance
Husband secretly married nurse.
Several months later I found out that the husband had married a girl whom he had met in the hospital. His mother was ill. The girl had to take good care of her. I also loved to work I used to teach in school before marriage we had love marriage. By the way, I have not been able to find out from their behavior yet. There is no special problem in expenses. There is a hiccup because of which I am not asking them anything about it. My heart says that this is a lie, I have 2 daughters. What would I say to them?
Suggestion: If the husband has hidden this from you, you should not reveal it to him as long as things are going well. It may that someone may have given you wrong information. Their attitude is appropriate. If there is no problem in expenses, then it is very possible that the news of marriage is wrong. Getting rid of job was not a big deal. Otherwise, responsibilities come both at home and abroad. There is a need to think positively so that no reality can cause mental and emotional problems.
There is no respect in the house! So she committed suicide
A friend of mine committed suicide. The children disobeyed. The wife stopped taking interest. He loved a girl. His wife knew him, but he stopped fighting with her. He was addicted to alcohol. The constant failure in the business made him frustrated. When the debt was paid off, he shot himself. Now I am also very disappointed in the matter of honor, I am also worried that my family members will not consider me less than anyone. The poor man did it because of his family
Suggestion: Your friend's suicide was not caused by family but by drugs. Another reason could be debt Cannabis addicts do not fail in their suicide attempts, they lack tolerance. The detachment of the wife and children and the failure of the business. Only those who love can be respected by the family due to their own negligence. Lovers do not want everything to be obeyed. They also consider the way of others important. There is no need to despair if you do not use drugs.
